Stage 3 of 20
Fear
Identify what controls you. Face your fears: don't let them run your life.
Core Question
What is stopping me?
What This Stage Teaches
- The six basic fears: poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of love, old age, death
- How fear produces indecision, procrastination, avoidance, excuses, conformity, approval-seeking, negative thinking
- The fear feedback loop: avoid opportunity, avoid action, gain no experience, become less capable, become more afraid
- Fear as a driver of bad decisions, not just discomfort
Skill to Develop
Courageous action despite fear: not eliminating fear (unrealistic), but feel fear, think clearly, act anyway.
The Biblical Framework
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NAME YOUR FEAR
“The fear of man is a cause of danger: but whoever puts his faith in the Lord will have a safe place on high.”
Proverbs 29:25 -
REFUSE THE SPIRIT OF FEAR
“For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of self-control.”
2 Timothy 1:7 -
ACT DESPITE FEAR
“Have I not given you your orders? Take heart and be strong; have no fear and do not be troubled; for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:9 -
BREAK THE AVOIDANCE LOOP
“The hater of work says, There is a lion outside: I will be put to death in the streets.”
Proverbs 22:13
Hill vs. Scripture
Hill
Identify and conquer the six basic fears through courageous action.
Scripture
Fear of man is a trap; the antidote isn't manufactured bravery but well-placed trust: courage that comes from knowing who is actually with you.
The Hard Questions
- Which of the six basic fears has the most grip on me right now?
- What opportunity have I avoided because I was protecting myself from a feeling, not an actual outcome?
- What decision am I delaying purely out of fear disguised as "more research"?
- Whose opinion am I more afraid of than I am afraid of wasting my life?
- What would I attempt this week if I knew I could not be humiliated by failing at it?
Exercise
Name It to Tame It
Write down your single strongest fear right now, in one sentence. Then write the worst realistic outcome if it happened. Then write how you would actually recover. Most fear shrinks once it's specific.
FEAR: Identify exactly what's controlling you, then practice the discipline of feeling fear, thinking clearly, and acting anyway.
Stories for This Stage
From Scripture
Moses sends twelve men to scout the land of Canaan before Israel moves in. All twelve see the same fortified cities and the same formidable people. Ten come back and say it's impossible, that they felt like grasshoppers next to them. Two, Joshua and Caleb, look at the identical facts and say the land can be taken. The difference wasn't the evidence. It was what each group let the evidence do to them. Because of the majority's fear, an entire generation ends up wandering the wilderness for forty years instead of entering the land they'd already been promised. Numbers 13:30-33.
My Story
A time fear (of failure, criticism, loss) nearly stopped you from doing something important, and what happened when you acted anyway, or didn't.